To ‘First Look’, or not to ‘First Look’… that is the question!
This question has been coming up more and more with all the brides that I meet: should we do a first look, or stick with tradition?
So I thought I’d shed a little light on my perspective, but not as a photographer (because as a photographer, I LOVE first looks), but as a Former Bride.
More than anything, FCI wants our brides to be happy, so I want to simply explain the options, so every couple can make an educated decision.
1) Get in some QT
I was a bride before I was a photographer, and trust me when I say your first look may be the only time you get to spend time alone on your wedding day. You have guests to talk to – some who have travelled great distances – and they all want to say ‘congrats’. You have vendors to deal with, and a timeline to stick to, and a photographer *ahem*;) that’s by your side pretty much the whole day.
You should be free to spend some time alone on your wedding day. You deserve to have a special time carved out in your timeline, just for you two, away from distractions, and details, and guests.
2) So fresh and so clean clean!
Every girl knows you look the best when your make up and hair is fresh, so get your photos out of the way first!
Are you getting married in peak wedding season (In BC it is July and August), when the chances of a super hot summer day are high? Are you having your ceremony outside in said hot sun? Will there be tears during your ceremony? If you said yes to any of these, a First Look is a fantastic way to avoid shiny faces, frizzed hair, and sweat spots.
3) Calm the bleep down!
Think about this… when you’re nervous (wedding day nerves are a real thing!), or stressed out (all your planning has led up to this day and you want it to go smoothly), or upset about something (family drama… we all have it)… Who do you go to?? I can almost guarantee it’s your partner! And who is the one person the wedding rules say you aren’t allowed to see?? Your partner! Getting to see your soon-to-be-spouse, give each other a giant hug, and lots of kisses is such a massive weight off your shoulders!
4) Enjoy your cocktail hour
Those guests you spent painstaking time selecting and inviting – actual spend time with them. Instead of rushing off for 1-2 hours after your ceremony, enjoy your cocktail hour with your guests!
5) Smooth Sailing
The best part of a couple seeing each other before the ceremony is that it lends to a much smoother layout for family pictures, cocktail hour, and beautiful sunset pictures of the bride and groom after dinner.
Often times brides think there are rules to weddings (Cannot see groom before hand, Must throw garter, Cannot be seen as a couple until the Grand Entrance), but I believe there should only be one rule: